This article details my thoughts on incels. I discuss the social phenomenon of incels, and the broader phenomenon of young men who are considered unattractive. I further make the argument that the way society treats these men is unacceptable. Finally, I will discuss my personal experience and philosophy on living a good life, in spite of these issues.

The word “Incel” refers to two related but distinct groups.

On the one hand, “Incel” is a portmanteau of the words “involuntarily celibate”. In the most literal definition of the term, this a person who desires sex, but is unable to have it. However, generally “celibate” is defined loosely - we really mean intimate romantic relationships, whether it is sexual or not. Let's be clear - everyone who desires this but hasn't had it is an incel, by definition.

On the other hand, “Incel” also refers to a group of men who hold a certain set of (usually misogynistic) beliefs.